Did you ever flip through the radio and hear the exact song that fits the thoughts in your head?
MMK circa 1995 in a London hotel. Notice the rucksack – a staple during my traveling days.
Recently, I was driving home after doing the weekly food shopping. The road I took was nearly empty, but my head was filled. It was then that I heard the song, Learn to be Still, by the Eagles.
I am a restless sort by nature.
Two days after my 22nd birthday and four days after I completed a summer course for my undergraduate degree, I was on a plane. It would be the first of four summers that I spent far far from home. Other shorter trips would follow over the years.
Rather than quieting my restlessness, my travels instead breathed greater life into it. You see before those journeys, I thought Born to Run was a great song and not potential mantra for life.
Yes, my 20’s were all about travel. And growth. And change.
Since then, I have been the opposite of a rambling man.
I am the picture of permanency. If I were to give myself a title for my life from my early 30’s and into my 40’s, it would be Mr. Stability.
I’ve been married for over 12 years. I’ve been in the same job for nearly 11 years. My family and I’ve been in our home for close to seven years.
Responsible, adult, parent MMK.
Can you get more stable than that?
And there in the issue may lie.
I’m going batty.
Lately, I wake up and I feel like I am living the Bill Murray movie of Groundhog Day. I just haven’t learned how to speak French, driven my car in front of a train, or eaten fattening desserts without gaining weight.
But the sameness is there.
And the boredom that comes along with it.
Maybe, this can be attributed to the brutal winter we went through. One day you’ll find tomorrow will come and I’ll follow the sun.
Maybe, it’s that time of year on the school calendar. I’m feeling worn down and the thought of June is revitalizing. Show me summer.
Or maybe this is what adulthood is.
Being an adult means being responsible. Responsibility is not always fun. I don’t want to clean the toilet, I don’t want to get up early, I don’t want to make the bed.
But I have to.
I have to learn to be still.
Yet, I feel a need to break out, go crazy, and blow off some of this restlessness. I want to grow, experience, and imagine. What would life be like without such things?
So am I Born to Run?
Well, maybe not that either. After all, I got two kids and a wife, a job, and a mortgage.
I’m an adult with responsibilities.
Yet growth and adventure can and must still occur. However, these days, such developments are more subtle.
I am not sure any song title sums up where I am. Maybe, it’s something about being in the middle, about balancing, about recognizing ones obligations and desires and still moving on.
Know any songs like that?