It was the 8th inning of a 6th inning game. Who knew Little League softball had extra innings?
One boy (Let’s call him Aaron) had sat on the bench for multiple innings. Aaron was in the 2nd grade or the youngest in the band (2nd-4th grade) and a weak player. He was anxious when the ball came to him and rarely caught it. He had a weak arm.
Another boy (let’s call him David) was the last person left who had yet to sit on the bench. David was in 4th grade and was very good for his age. A ball hit to him was as sure as an out can be for the first rung of Little League.
In that 8th inning, as the Little League Coach, I had a decision to make: Who to sit? What was important – putting the team in the best position to win or making sure everyone had a chance. I chose the latter.
Inevitably, Aaron was involved in a defensive play. He made an error, and the other team scored. We were unable to score in our inning, and our team lost.
I wonder if anyone – David, Aaron, the rest of the team or my Little League Co-coach -remembers that game or decision. It wasn’t monumental. I didn’t get booed. I didn’t have to answer a tough question from the press. I didn’t hear it debated on sports talk radio.
But it mattered.
For a while, I felt guilty. In my quest for fairness, I let the boys down. After all, everyone wanted to win, and I knowingly made a decision that did not further our chances for winning.
This past week, BR’s Little League season began. It’s my third year coaching him (co-coaching actually). While I’m not quite expecting the call from Cooperstown or where ever the Little League Hall of Fame is, I’m getting better at it.
I continue to reconcile the pull of winning at all costs – play the best kids as much as possible, tell the weaker players to not swing, and scream at pimply faced umpires who the day before were worried about taking the PSAT – and ensuring everyone gets playing time.
There is no doubt in my mind that the boys want to win. The constant chatter from the weakest player to the strongest – regarding the score and analyzing how we can either hold on to or capture the lead – makes it clear that they want to win.
And I want to win. I enjoy seeing my team win.
But not at all costs.
I’ll play Aaron and the other boys like him. Those boys who forget which one is left field and which one is right field. Those boys who swing the bat softly. Those boys who throw a ball like it’s a discus.
I’ll also have a catch with them while they are on the sidelines. I’ll offer instruction on how to throw and how to field. I’ll watch them bat and give tips.
After all, I volunteered to coach because I wanted to help the kids learn.
But I don’t feel compelled to have everything be 100% even. David and his lot will play more – within reason. They’ll play the positions that the ball is most likely to come to. They’ll bat in the positions where they have the greatest chance to have an impact.
After all, they need a coach and an opportunity to grow too.
Everyone – Davids and Aarons – wants to win.
I hope when the season comes to an end, the boys will look back and appreciate that they were part of a team. Everyone got to play. Everyone had a role. Everyone grew.
If that team they look back upon is also a winning team, it will be even sweeter.
tough call. I helped coach my step-daughters soccer team several years back and always tried to get the weaker kids in early so that I could play the better kids at crunch time. It surprises me that they had extra innings at that level. Good for you getting out there and helping. I don’t remember many scores from my time in little league, but I can still tell you all my coaches and how I felt about them and playing the game.
Is is a tough call, but I feel it is the right one. Glad you came up with a system as well.
Your last line is something the commissioner of the league reminds us of every year.
I’ve learned that fair doesn’t always mean even, and it sounds like that is a lesson you are implementing, and doing it the right way!
That’s a good point Kate.
I’m certainly trying.
P.S. I’m waiting the Mr. T graduation post. I know it’s going to be emotional.
Whenever I coach I go through the same issues/questions.
I try to be as fair as possible but if we are looking at a chance to advance to the next level sometimes I will play the better kids more.
The concept is if we advance it provides everyone with the chance to play another game.
Can’t tell if the theory always works, but I do my best. It is not easy.
I hear you. It’s an in exact science but one worth thinking about. The fact that you are truly thinking about it shows something.
What an excellent philosophy to coaching. So glad you’re out there helping those young people develop athletic skills and sportsmanship.
Thanks. I’m definitely trying with the team. The co-coaches and I are on the same page which helps.